In today's world of constant communication, relationship experts have found that acting aloof, stand-offish or subscribing to the "three day rule" before making contact with a potential partner may actually drive away your desired companion.
eHarmony.co.uk recently conducted a dating study, analyzing 1,000 singles and their approaches to the world of online match-making. They found that just one in 14 singles obey the "three day rule," with only 4 percent of those polled reporting that they believe you should wait a few days before returning a potential match's message. Relationship expert Jenni Trent Hughes told the Daily Mail that there's a reason less people are resorting to such tactics.
"This technique worked best in the movies, but was always seriously flawed in real life," she said. "People respond best to positive actions. Smiles and appreciation of who they are and what they have to offer is the best way to go."
Although 38 percent of those surveyed reported "Facebook stalking" before going on a first date, experts like Hughes recommend against it, as it can lead you to create a false identity of a person before meeting them in person.
Speaking of ex-partners, however, is surprisingly a "dating do," in the right context, that is, according to Hughes.
"It's not who you talk about, but how you talk about them that makes the difference," she said. "Positivity is key. If you stay positive then you can mention your ex -it's ranting and raving about bad past experiences that can really ruin a date. People typically respond best to positive and open actions so closed behavior is now only good for one thing - closing the door on a potentially successful relationship."
As for first date "don'ts," Hughes advised against texting while drinking, as you may write something you later regret (or load up on unsightly typos), and having too much alcohol in general, as first impressions are key.
Dr. Steve Carter, eHarmony's Vice President, told the Daily Mail that the poll was conducted out of interest on how dating tactics and techniques have changed over time.
