Isn't it ironic that the holiday season is all about love and yet it's the most stressful time of the year? The stress can take a toll on relationships and for some couples, this season could become a real struggle to keep it strong together. How do you keep the tension at bay and spend a blissful holiday with your partner? Follow these suggestions:
1) Keep calm. No, seriously - keep calm!
In the middle of the Christmas rush and the hustle and bustle, you have to find time to relax and unwind together, even for a few minutes. If relatives are in town and they're intruding on your space, slip out of the house and have coffee or tea at a local cafe shop, or take the family dog for a walk. Relish in those precious 30 minutes before you return home and attend to your parents and in-laws. Achieve to do this regularly together while there are guests in the house.
2) Don't commit to every holiday party.
As a couple, you'll have to have two sets of family parties or work parties to go to, not to mention all those other parties your friends invite you to join. It's bound to mess up your schedules and that's usually when the fight starts. Ahead of the celebrations, you must agree to a plan or make compromises. It's perfectly alright to say no to an invite, especially if you'd rather spend that night alone together, according to Self.
3) Give your partner the heads up.
You're going to have to deal with a lot of people during the holidays and large gatherings can incite anxiety. Before going to the party, go over certain "family secrets" with your partner or discuss what taboo topics shouldn't be brought up with Uncle Fred.
"Things happen at family gatherings that people hold grudges for over years. Do not let potential in-laws become outlaws," said therapist Dr. Jean Fitzpatrick via My Thirty Spot.
"From now until January 2, remember that small talk is the glue that holds society together," said psychologist John C. Friel via CNN. Small talk helps avoid potential arguments and tension. This isn't the right time to debate and fight with family members or close friends.
4) Dial down on the expectations and set boundaries with gift-giving.
Couples stress over the Christmas presents they have to give their partner, but this can be avoided if you make a pact beforehand. Gift discussion might not sound romantic, particularly if you're the type who enjoys surprises. However, when there's stressors all around you, it's better to plan ahead and prepare. You can do surprises some other time (and you'll enjoy this even better when it's really least expected!).
5) Don't forget about 'Me' time, too.
While you have to stick together, you must also not forget to take care of your individual needs to detach and de-stress. Spending time apart is just as equally important as spending time together even during the holidays. Read a good book by your favorite nook, complete your Christmas shopping, or hang out with your buddies for some hours in the week. Your partner shouldn't be expect to do all activities together, especially if she doesn't fancy this.
