While sex should not be an obligation, you know you have to do something special on Valentine's Day. If you have plans to light up the bedroom on Feb. 14, go over these tips for how to make the night more special:
Romance: Don't rush into it.
Sex is best enjoyed if you take time. Remember that Valentine's Days is about romance, so you will need to set the scene and the ambience. Light candles, play music and decorate the bedroom to create the mood. Indulge in sensual massages to help your partner relax.
For men pleasuring their women, include strokes to her buttocks, a highly erotic area, according to Menprovement. On the other hand, men's hidden erogenous zone is his ears, according to Cosmopolitan. Stimulate this using the thumb and forefinger or the tongue.
Also remember that women need at least 20 minutes to get stimulated for an orgasm, while men get there faster in six minutes, according to Ask Men. Keep it slow and sensual then.
Tease: Be honest and tell your partner what you like.
Be vocal if he's doing something that pleasures you or suggest what he can do to you and paint him a picture with words. Dirty talk doesn't have to sound like you're in a porn movie. Be more authentic so that you won't make your partner uncomfortable.
"Your tone can be funny and joking. It can be cute or teasing, innocent, or absolutely naughty," said Ruth Neustifter, the author of "The Nice Girl's Guide to Talking Dirty," via Shape.
Intensify: Go ahead and use sex toys to stimulate each other.
In this day and age, and with all the advancements of technology, it's no longer odd to find sex toys in your partner's drawers. Corporations have built their empires because there's a growing demand for them. Celebrities even recommend the best ones to use, including the Life vibrator (Alicia Silverstone), Lelo Dildos (Beyonce and Jay-Z) or the Rabbit vibrator (Eva Longoria), according to Bustle.
However, ensure that your partner is willing to use this. Plan ahead by discussing this together.
After Sex: Take care of each other in other ways.
The usual instinct is to go to sleep after sex, but you can do something different this time by taking a long warm soak in the tub together. Cuddle and communicate to cap your night on Valentine's Day.
