Are you lying to your husband in little ways that you don't even realize you are doing? Stress puts unnecessary strains on any relationship. If you are ignoring little issues and they are building to resentment, this can emerge later into a full blown issue and the first time your husband or significant other has ever even heard there is an issue.
Maintaining your identity while still supporting your spouse can go hand in hand. Think about the things you don't voice your opinion on that really matter to you, and start letting that inner voice come out to an outside voice with your spouse. You'll be glad you did.
Do you have a new goal, dream or desire that you aren't sharing with your spouse because it wasn't in your original plan? Kept to yourself, this can morph into depression, according to Match.com's blogging relationship expert Whitney Casey, who encourages us to tell our spouse the objective and timeline for achieving the goal.
Similar in theory is sacrificing something you have always wanted because it isn't what your husband wants.
"You've watched opportunities come and go, sometimes without considering your dreams," Casey says.
If it is something important, don't feel you have to live without it. Compromise is the cornerstone of any relationship. Work with your spouse so that both of your needs are met, even on such big issues as re-opening the discussion on kids. "Women must have invented the 'I'm fine' response to keep the peace," Casey says, according to Woman's Day. "Letting feelings fester only causes confusion down the line."
Casey explains that these feelings may blow up later and your spouse won't understand why you are that angry, not realizing that it is a cumulative effect you have had and keeping from him.
While every petty little thing that arises isn't necessary to bring up and discuss, if something is bothering you for more than 24 hours, it is an issue that should be addressed with your spouse, and likewise. Sharing is caring, sharing your dreams, you desires and your irks will only strengthen the relationship, not harm it.
