It turns out that you're not the only one suffering from a divorce or a breakup if you used to share a pet with your ex-partner. According to an animal behaviorist, your pet is feeling the emotional stress of the broken relationship, too.
A divorce or a breakup causes a strain in pets because the animal that has developed an attachment for her owners is experiencing separation anxiety from whomever it is that has to move out of the house. Going through the process of a separation can also lead to the disruption of routines, which could be stressful for pets who are conditioned to do the same things every day.
"Any big disruption to their normal routine or breaking of attachment bonds affects them a lot," animal behaviorist Kate Mornement said. However, the separation might also be a good thing for the pet if the former relationship was abusive and the animal had been a witness to it.
In recent years, pets have figured in divorce proceedings and custody battles, much like when parents fight for whoever gets the children. Yet there have been instances where the pets end up receiving less care and attention when couples divorce. They no longer experience the same quality of life as before due to the changes. Some even end up in animal shelters.
If you're going through a separation, there are ways to make the transition easier on yourself and your pet. Here are a few suggestions:
1) Try to keep routines as regular as possible. For instance, you could actually use the time to walk your dog to clear your head, so it's best not to skip what you normally do. Also, keep schedules of vet visits and grooming the same. If anything, the routines will help keep your mind distracted and occupied. It will help you as much as it will help your pet.
2) Practice patience especially when pets act up due to separation anxiety. The animals are likely confused about the transition just like you and your kids. However, know that you can get through this difficult time together if you keep giving them the same amount of love and attention.
3) If you have agreed to pet visitations or shared custody with your ex, keep the experience positive and free of drama so as not to confuse the animal further. Unlike with children, no one can actually explain to pets what's really going on. They'll only be able to pick some clues about the changes based on your behavior and demeanor.
